5 Tips About Writing Your Own Wedding Vows

What You Should Know About Writing Your Own Wedding Vows

Thinking about writing your own wedding day vows? You’re not alone, self-written vows are becoming more and more popular, with couples looking to create a personalised touch to their ceremony. If you’re not quite sure where to start, we’ve put together a little guide to help get you started…

Know the legalities of self-written vows

First things first, if you’re looking to have a civil ceremony, legally, your vows cannot include any references to religion. Civil ceremonies must also include the statutory declarations during the exchanging of vows which is the following: ““…Solemnly declare that I know not of any lawful impediment why I, (name), may not be joined in matrimony to (name).” We’d always recommend that you speak to your registrar when writing your customized vows; they will be able to advise you of any potential problems before it gets too late. No one wants a last-minute panic.

Know the legalities of self-written vows

Take inspiration from your favourite examples

Before you hit pen to paper, it’s always a good idea to read as many different types of wedding vows as possible – from the very traditional to the highly personalised and perhaps even those from different faiths. The more variety the better – it will give you a general sense of what you like and don’t like so you can start considering the style that’s right for you.

Decide on a tone and stick to it

You’ll need to decide quite early on what kind of tone your wedding vows will take. Do you want something with a pinch of humour or will they be simple and romantic? You’ll also need to consider whether you’ll write them together or separately. If it’s the latter, will they be kept a secret until the Big Day?

Decide on a tone and stick to it

Think about your relationship milestones 

If you’ve been struck with writer’s block, take some time out to write about some of your best and most memorable moments together. Perhaps a special holiday or spontaneous road trip, maybe the first time you made each other laugh-til-it-hurt. If you’re still struggling, give each other a task of jotting down 10 things you love most about one another. It’s often those unedited, less-well-thought-out lines that sound best of all because they’re completely honest. When you do start writing try not to be too gushing or intimate, some things are best kept behind closed doors. You know what we mean…

Think about your relationship milestones

Do a practice run and time it

Of course your vows are important but no one wants to listen to you going on for 10 minutes, no matter how good they are. We’d suggest aiming for two minutes max and time yourself running through them. If they go over, start editing out the least important bits. At this stage it might be worth running them through with a friend who can give you another perspective on what to keep and cut. Don’t forget, you have a day of speeches and toasts so anything that doesn’t work in your vows might work better later in the day.

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Planning An Autumn Wedding

how to plan an autumn wedding

With the heat of the summer passing, it will soon be time to welcome in cooler temperatures and the beautifully rich and colorful tones of autumn. For many couples, Autumn is the perfect time of year to get married – not only do many venues offer significant discounts or include extras to entice you to choose a date that is out of peak season, nature really does provide the perfect inspiration for those who want something a little different from their day. And don’t worry, it doesn’t have to be all pumpkins and toffee apples, there are plenty of ways to embrace autumn and create something beautifully unique for your wedding.

Here are our five top tips to creating the perfect autumnal wedding.

Work with what nature gives you

There’s no doubt about it – autumn really does a lot of the hard work for you with creating the perfect backdrop for your big day. As the leaves start to fall and the landscape changes to rich russets, deliciously deep reds and dark velvety brown tones, add in some metallic hints and beautiful foliage to create a warm, luscious rustic or boho vibe. Enhance a stunning natural setting with lots of wooden touches from log rounds on your tables to authentic apple crates that are filled with interesting and unusual props and pretties along with some personal photos. Natural materials and organic colour schemes work perfectly and don’t be afraid to play with texture using macramé, hand-dyed linens and imperfectly perfect crockery to create a tablescape of dreams.

Use the light to your advantage

As the sun starts to set much earlier, it’s also important to work with and enhance the lower lighting levels. Dot beautiful lanterns, candles and tea-lights around your venue to produce a cozy, intimate and romantic feel. If you are lucky enough to have open fires in your venue, keep these lit and gently burning away throughout the entire celebration. If your venue doesn’t allow naked flames, there are some amazingly good artificial candles and tea-lights available to hire or buy which are just as effective. Getting that beautiful sparkler shot becomes so much easier as your photographer can arrange this much earlier in the day when less of your guests are likely to have gone wandering! Lastly, fairy and festoon lights add a perfect twinkly touch both inside and outside – the more the merrier!

Comfort is key

If you are looking to avoid the heat of summer, but would still like some of your day to take place outside, autumn is the perfect season for you. Keep in mind that whilst daytime temperatures may allow for welcome drinks, photographs or even lawn games to take place outside, come the evening, temperatures will drop so you do need to be prepared. You can keep things very simple by dotting baskets with some pretty blankets around your venue or perhaps you might even consider adding a fire-pit for guests to relax around. As well as taking care of your guests, make sure you also think of your bridal party. Your bride tribe will almost certainly need some kind of shrug or throw to keep warm and do ensure there are some umbrellas and possibly even wellies to hand to keep everybody comfy whilst capturing those all-important outdoor photographs!

Food glorious food

Autumnal food is all about comfort and don’t be afraid to get imaginative here. Consider feeding your guests beautiful warming dishes like pie and mash or using street food trucks to serve some autumnal classics. Chili and rice, curries and jacket potatoes are guaranteed to go down a storm and provide much-needed energy for dancing the night away. For sweet treats, why not let your guests toast some marshmallows around the fire-pit, serve indulgently delicious crepes and offer a late-night hot chocolate or warmed cider to round off your evening celebrations.

The weather

Finally, one of the great joys of an autumn wedding – the weather. Yes, seriously! Most couples plan their autumnal wedding on the basis that the weather won’t be amazing, which means that even a hint of sunshine really puts the cherry on the cake!

Are you planning an autumn wedding? Perhaps you have had an autumn wedding? We would love to hear your story and see your wedding photos. 

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Style Ideas for Your Wedding

Style ideas for your wedding

Wanting the best Wedding Party for one’s self is always every groom and bride’s pursuit, but making a unique plan becomes the core issue. Everyone wants their wedding party to be memorable and interesting, and generating cute ideas is a major part of having the best wedding ceremony in town. Below, we have compiled 5 styles ideas to make your wedding an unforgettable experience.

Choosing a wedding theme is a great way to create a distinct look and feel for your event.  It is important to select a theme in the beginning stages as it helps in preparation and also the fashion style you choose. Your theme could be something simple or complex.  

In this article, we will share a couple of ideas that may help in your planning process.  

URBAN 

It is usually referred to as urban chic styling and it has been growing in popularity over the years.

The urban chic styling is usually an interior design theme that features exposed bricks, metals and bringing the outside in. This theme is to give you a beautiful and stylish event with a little vintage flare. When done right this theme can give you and urban and trendy vibe.  You can get inspirations by flicking through various interior design magazines that usually feature a recently renovated or designed working space within the urban chic trend.

SUPERHEROES 

If you and your partner are comic book obsessive then it’s only normal to incorporate the superhero theme into your big day.

If you are not brave enough to rock a head to toe heroic look,you can wear them to smaller details like a Superman cake or Batman vase or Wonder Woman head gear.

You can even make it more fun by sending out comic book inspired invites as a teaser to what your big day will showcase.

COUNTRY  

When people hear Country themed wedding, they always expect you to be outside but it doesn’t necessarily has to be that way.  A lot of country wedding are actually held at home. It has a lot to do with your concepts, for instance, some people have their wedding in a barn while others set a dressing code that goes with the theme.

The beauty of country weddings is that they can be as laid back or posh as you want them to be.

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